My Dom is a wonderful man, but this poly thing is hard.  I’m a secondary in the dichotomy, which is fine, but his primary is challenging.  She is very different from me and  I find it difficult to not react to her negative energy when she is feeling insecure, jealous, tense, etc..  At this point there have been two dates of ours that have been affected by her issues.  I fear there will be more for a while longer at least.  One of the dates was actually supposed to be complete alone time between he and I which I needed very badly because I was having a rough time myself.

I am hoping she and I become friends and he gets the relationship he desires.  I also hope I am able to make sure I don’t sacrifice my happiness in the process.